Many of us suffer from a fear of success even more than a fear of failurewhich can result in self-sabotage – the act of either consciously or unknowingly ruining your own chances of success. Why do we do this? It turns out there are many different reasons. Some of us are afraid of stepping into our own power, some don’t think they have what it takes to truly lead, others are afraid of the change connected to successful endeavors. Here are the top 10 ways you may be unwittingly nixing your chances to succeed and embracing your true inner power.
Many of us feel this huge sense of needing to be there for everyone and fear that if we are successful, then how can we continue to be there for those that need us? Rescuers are much more comfortable in positions of caretaking and helping others. They need to learn how to drop this mantle of responsibility and focus on themselves. Ask for help – from a therapist, a trusted friend but most of all from your guides and angels – to help you work toward your goal of success. Look for the helpers as Mr. Rogers would remind us. Consider reading Bud Harris’ book Sacred Selfishness.
Some are truly afraid of being seen and heard for who and what they are. They are much more comfortable standing back and observing from the shadows. It’s this fear of success – rooted in a fear of being heard, valued and seen – that holds back these individuals. It’s crucial for these individuals to work on seeing their own value and increasing their confidence and their belief in their divine rights to a successful and fulfilling life.Step into your power.Set firm boundaries.Honour your worth.Teach others how to treat you by valuing yourself, your time and your talents.
The Energetically Run-Down
Some are already feeling rundown and tired from carrying everyone else’ stuff that even though they might have great ideas for success and wonderful plans, they lack the energy to implement the successful ideas in real time. So many are feeling the weight of caring for children and parents or carrying a huge workload that they lack the vital energy needed for success. Learning to delegate responsibilities, asking for help and carving out sacred time for solitude, reflection and self-care are paramount to their success.
The “Who Me?”
Others struggle with lack of self-worth and will prevent their success out of a belief that they have nothing worthwhile to share with the world. Consider starting a Grateful For Me Journal where you write down three successes you achieved each day such as, “I am grateful I handled that difficult customer so well today” or “I am grateful I made time to exercise for me today.” As you start to celebrate your small and large accomplishments, you will see that you are truly worthy of success.
Everyone wants to be liked by their peers, but some people can feel and sense the true feelings of those around them in ways others can’t and in doing so they self-sabotage their success because they subconsciously don’t want to feel the envy or jealousy of their friends and colleagues.
They’d rather be accepted than successful and often see this as an either/or issue when in reality it isn’t. You can have both – acceptance, respect, support and success. Learn about your own energy and emotions so you can start to discern what’s yours and what isn’t. Check out The Empath’s Survival Guide by Judith Orloff.
People who are the fixers often attract negative or toxic relationships and the drama, instability and drain of being in these relationships can prevent an empath from creating true success. You already know you’re good at relating to others. Switch the focus to yourself and start to develop a deeper, more honest relationship with yourself. Look into Dr. Christiane Northrup’s book Dodging Energy Vampires.
Many don’t really know who they are or what they want. They are so used to aligning and matching their emotions and vibrations with those around them that they’ve lost this innate sense of who they are. So while they want to be successful, in reality they have no idea what they need to focus on. If you’re a seeker, focus on getting in touch with your truth, your passions, your true desires and talents and start to focus on what specifically success looks like for you. Develop an authentic relationship with yourself. Who and what makes you happy? What does success look like to you in your career? Your finances? Your relationships? With yourself? Seekers must create a clear vision for who they are and what they want in order to manifest true joy.Consider diving into Your Soul’s Plan by Robert Schwartz.