of an aim or purpose.” How we measure success –having a happy family, certain amount of wealth, or a thriving business – is different for each individual. We all have specific dreams and goals that we want to achieve in life. No matter what you think success entails, you have the ability to achieve it.
Don’t get set back by failures.
When we’re face-to-face with an obstacle, we are quick to give up, cast blame on others, and throw ourselves a pity party. This accomplishes absolutely nothing and only sets you back even further. Don’t sit around and waste your precious time on negativity. Setbacks happen to everyone, even the most successful people. It’s how they choose to deal with the setbacks that make a difference. If you choose to learn about what you did wrong and how you can fix it in the future you will be far better off. Instead of giving up, keep pushing through and take these failures as an indication that you are on the right track.
Find out what you’re good at.
If you want to succeed, you first need to figure out what you’re really good at. Are you someone who enjoys staying organized and planning? Are you someone who has fantastic communication skills? Get out a notebook and write down the things that make you unique. Consult with your friends, family and coworkers if you are having a difficult time or want a fresh perspective. You also have to be realistic with yourself. Though you might dream of becoming a top NBA player, you might have to accept that your short stature or age might prohibit that. Instead, see what options you have in becoming a coach for a local kid’s team. You can utilize the skills you were given while still accomplishing goals you want to achieve.
Learn to prioritize your time.
Many people don’t follow their dreams because they think they don’t have the time to. If you want to be successful, however, you have to make sure that it’s an actual priority. Are you willing to sacrifice a night out with friends if it means you might reach your long-term goals? Finding the right balance between work, friends, family, extracurricular activities and the like can definitely be hard, but is necessary if you want to become successful. Choose a method that works best for you – weather that is physical planner or calendar notifications on your phone – to help you stay organized. You will be surprise how much free time is available when you change your priorities around.
Be willing to work hard.
You say you want to be successful, but are you willing to put in the work that success requires? Hard-workers never lose sight of their goals, regardless of how many obstacles come in their way. They are willing to go above and beyond the call of duty in order to make things happen. They have the dedication and the motivation needed to achieve their dreams. If you are struggling to find the will to work hard, ask yourself what is holding you back. Are you feeling a lack of inspiration? Watch some motivational speakers to see if something sparks. Are you feeling bad about yourself? Turn to trusted friends for support and encouragement.
Keep a positive mindset, but be honest with yourself.
There isn’t anything worse that being your own worst enemy. Are you the type of person that is constantly dragging yourself down? You may say things like “I’m not good enough” or “Why even try?” This halts your ability to progress as a successful person more quickly than anything else. You have to believe in yourself, and ditch the negative mindset. Instead, learn how to be honest with yourself in a loving way. For example, if you miss out on a deadline don’t panic and get angry. Tell yourself you can try harder next time and choose to learn from the mistake. Focus on the future and what exciting things are up next, instead of living in the past. You are worth a great deal of self-love and self-confidence.
Everyone had the power to succeed in life. We can not only reach for our dreams, but actually achieve them when we unlock the power we have within us. Figure out exactly what you want to aim for and put your effort into it. You’ll be able to accomplish more than you ever thought possible!
Megan Bailey is the Social Media Specialist and Content Producer for Beliefnet. She attended James Madison University where she received a degree in psychology.